Would you choose to love someone when it is super hard to do? I did… and I was shocked by the results! Scroll down to read the story below. 😉
I have a friend who can be hard to love
We have had our fair share of misunderstandings, hurt feelings, offenses, and disagreements.
And yet recently another friend said to me wonderingly, “You two seem like you have a pretty good friendship. How on earth did that happen??”
I told her half-jokingly, “We had a big fight, and we had to work through it. And now we like each other.”
It’s true… we did have a pretty big misunderstanding that we had to talk through, and I believe we did walk away with a stronger relationship.
But there’s one other small little detail:
I chose to love
At one point, I finally just decided that I would just love my friend. Even when we misunderstood each other. Even when we offended each other.
But you want to know the crazy thing? I am not nearly so quick to get offended with this friend anymore.
And I won’t say it’s because I understand this particular friend, because there’s a good possibility that will never happen! 😛 But I have found that I’ve enjoyed my friend so much more since I simply chose to love.
The surprising results when you choose to love
Don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying no one will ever annoy you again if you choose to love. I’m not saying you won’t have misunderstandings or even arguments.
But I am saying that if you choose to love someone, consciously & intentionally—whether he is loving toward you or not!—you may find yourself enjoying him more than you ever have before! 🙂
I think that most happily married couples have discovered this “choosing to love.” (Though I don’t speak from personal experience, just observation. 😉 )
You can’t necessarily rely on warm fuzzy feelings. Sometimes love is work!
But when you choose to love someone, you also choose to enjoy that person a whole lot more.
So, wanna know who I chose to love? 😉
Well, who is the #1 person we should consciously, intentionally choose to love?
Who would we love to enjoy more of?
Honestly, the #1 person I want to enjoy? I want to enjoy the Lord more.
That’s why I try to read my Bible daily & to study & to memorize & to pray—it’s all to know Him more & enjoy Him more.
Sometimes love is work
I’ll admit, sometimes I rush through my Bible reading—not really focused & not really enjoying it. Sometimes I skip studying or memorization. Sometimes I forget to pray.
But this is where the rubber meets the road. It’s not about keeping rules or checking lists; it’s about knowing & loving God.
It’s because, sometimes, love is work.
A wife who chooses to bite her tongue, a friend who chooses to overlook an offense, and a Christian who chooses to read her Bible—those choices are work. Love is work.
But love is also worth it.
Choosing to love is WORTH IT.
Especially when we choose to love the Lord. Then it’s definitely exceedingly abundantly worth it.
No wonder the Bible tells us over & over, “Love the Lord your God.” It’s a command—something for us to act on.
It may not come naturally. It may require discipline, determination, & work.
But I choose to do it. I choose to love the Lord my God.
I consciously chose to love my friend, and as a result I found that our friendship grew stronger & I enjoyed it much more.
I can only imagine how much better it will be, day by day, as I choose to love Jesus Christ! 🙂